EXAMINE YOURSELF

1 Corinthians 11:17-34                                                                                                                                       

October 7, 2007                                                                                                                           Pastor Harpold

The self-examination service is based somewhat on verse 28 relating to participation in the Love Feast.  What is meant when we are told that each must examine himself?  We could relate it to a couple of things – earlier Paul is talking about the manner in which folks were eating at the Love Feast.  They would come and grab the food with no regard for the needs of others.  And some would even drink themselves drunk.  They were despising the body of Christ and bringing shame on many there.  Paul also saw there were divisions and factions in the body – meaning there must have been some very bad feelings among the folks.  So they were coming to the table of the Lord – a symbol of unity in Christ – and they were overcome by animosity against each other.

Paul then speaks about the bread and cup, symbols of the Body and Blood of Christ – His sacrifice offered on our behalf.  As often as we eat the bread and drink the cup we proclaim the Lords death till he comes.  Then comes the “therefore” – what is the therefore there for.  The way we receive the meal reflects either on our honoring or dishonoring the meaning of the celebration.  If we receive it in an unworthy manner we are not properly discerning the Lord’s body.  Notice the last verse which reminds us (after another therefore) to wait for one another – or to give honor to all who are assembled.  There is no room for strife and division at the table of the Lord.  Indeed, there is no room at anytime for such within the church.

Let us consider our relation to the Body of Christ, the church to which we have been called to be a member one of another.

Charles Swindoll in Come Before Winter

Nobody is a whole chain.  Each one is a link.  But take away one link and the chain is broken.

Nobody is a whole team.  Each one is a player.  But take away one player and the game is forfeited.

Nobody is a whole orchestra.  Each one is a musician.  But take away one musician and the symphony is incomplete.

Nobody is a whole play.  Each one is an actor.  But take away one actor and the performance suffers.

Nobody is a whole hospital.  Each is a part of the staff.  But take away one person and it isn’t long before the patient can tell.

Cars are composed of many parts.  Each one is connected to and dependent upon the other.  Even a tiny screw, if it comes loose and falls out of the carburetor, can bring the whole vehicle to a stop.

You guessed it.  We need each other.  You need someone and someone needs you.  Isolated islands we’re not.  To make this thing called life work, we gotta lean and support.  And relate and respond.  And give and take.  And confess and forgive.  And reach out and embrace.  And release and rely.

Especially in God’s family.... where working together is Plan A for survival.  And since we’re so different (thanks to the way God built us), love and acceptance are not optional luxuries.  Neither is tolerance.  Or understanding.  Or patience.  You know, all those things you need from others when your humanity crowds out your divinity.

In other words:  Love each other with brotherly affection and take delight in honoring each other.  Never be lazy in your work but serve the Lord enthusiastically.  Be glad for God is planning for you.  Be patient in trouble, and prayerful always.  When God’s children are in need, you be the one to help them out.  And get into the habit of inviting guests home for dinner or, if they need lodging, for the night (Romans 12:10-13 TLB).

Why?  Because each one of us is worth it.  Even when we don’t act like it or feel like it or deserve it.

Evelyn Christianson is a widely known speaker especially on prayer.  She relates a time of struggle.  He husband had left the pastorate for a new ministry in another city.  She had left behind a tremendous nest of prayer support, but she felt sure she would find people in St. Paul for prayer support.

Soon she was scheduled to speak at a prayer breakfast and asked for prayer support from a prayer chain.  When she returned she called to thank the chairman for the prayer support.  She replied, “Oh, but we didn’t pray.”  She went on to explain that someone in the church had stopped the prayer chain, because it was not their practice to pray for public speakers.  Evelyn was extremely hurt by this.

The following week she went with her husband and another couple to a mountain cabin.  All week she tried reading the Bible and praying, but could not get through to God.  She confessed sins until she was blue in the face.  Finally, Thursday morning at 5:30, she got up and went far from the cabin and threw herself on her face before God.  She prayed, “Lord, say something.  I don’t care what you say, but say something.”

She was beginning to panic, because she was teaching prayer seminars and yet God had not said a word to her all week.  She started leafing through the Bible.  When she got to 2 Corinthians 2:5, God stopped her.  If anyone has caused grief, he has not so much grieved me as he has grieved all of you.

That was her problem, she thought.  She had been grieved, and amazingly God didn’t disagree with her.  When we are hurt by other Christians, we somehow feel that God sweeps it under the rug and says, “Don’t worry about it.”  But he doesn’t ignore it; he expects us to acknowledge that we have been grieved.

Evelyn was ready to get up from her knees and go make breakfast, thinking “Hallelujah, God agrees with me.  I’ve been grieved.”  But God nudged her and said, “Don’t stop - there is more in that chapter.”

She continued reading until verse 7 Now instead, you ought to forgive and comfort him, so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow. 

She was supposed to forgive the woman.  But how?  The woman had made a fool of her.  Evelyn had been the leader of a prayer movement, prayer was her life, and when she asked a simple prayer request, she had been slapped in the face, so to speak.  She was horrified.

She waited on her knees for a long time.  She struggled with the Lord.  Finally she said, “God, I can’t do this on my own strength.  You are going to have to help me.”

And God did.  His power, his grace, his ability to forgive came, and she forgave the woman.  And as she forgave the way was paved for God to forgive her.  In the Lord’s prayer, Jesus said, “Forgive us our debts as we have forgiven our debtors.”  We are forgiven as we forgive.

God wasn’t finished with Evelyn yet.  He nudged her to read verse 8,  I urge you, therefore, to reaffirm your love for him. 

Evelyn related that she really didn’t love the woman very much so she had to ask God for love.  And she waited.  Waiting is hard, but it is important.  Often we ask God for something, and then we get right up and run away.  She waited until God’s love came.

She also knew she couldn’t just love the woman in her heart, she had to show her love to her.  Since they were on a mountain with no postal service or phone, she had to wait until they returned home and she saw the woman in church the next Sunday.

Apparently others in the church knew of the situation.  And people were waiting to see what she would do.  They knew she taught prayer seminars, and they wanted to know what she would do when she was hurt.  She went up to the woman and put her arms around her and it was settled.

That was the hardest lesson in forgiveness she ever learned, but forgiving the woman freed her to hear God again.

Verses 10-11 If you forgive anyone, I also forgive him.  And what I have forgiven - if there was anything to forgive - I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake, in order that Satan might not outwit us.  For we are not unaware of his schemes.

We have spoken about love being an action not a feeling.  But feelings are a part of love and forgiveness.  If you don’t feel love toward someone who has hurt you, you can still act loving, but you would be wearing a mask.

It is possible to step out in an act of love.  But it is better to wait on God and let him give real love.

When a child hurts another child, the parent says, “Tell him you are sorry.”  The child says in a sulky voice, “I’m sorry.”  That fulfills the letter of the law, but not the spirit of the law.  God wants us to have true love, not an insincere, surface love.

When people lash out at us and hurt us, they are usually threatened in some way.  Forgiving others is easier when we can understand the reason for their lashing out at us.  If we know they have a need, it’s easier to reaffirm our love and comfort for them.

When a person rubs us the wrong way we should pray, “Lord, give me the love you want me to have for that person right now.”  And the Lord will fill our heart with love.

If we don’t really love or forgive a person he or she will know it by our attitude, or by the tone in our voice.  Sincerity in forgiveness, not phoniness, is what we strive for.

Let me remind you that one of the key passages of Scripture that has had a lot of meaning for the Brethren is Matthew 18 with the challenge to confront one another when someone has fallen into sin.  It all has to do with accountability to one another.  Galatians 6 also reminds us that if a brother has fallen into sin you who are spiritual should restore that one (in the spirit of meekness) remembering – we could fall just as easily if we do not remain vigilante.

But may I also remind you of what Jesus said much earlier – in the Sermon on the Mount – when he said if you bring your gift to the altar and remember that someone has something against you – you have wronged someone – go and be reconciled, then come and offer your gift.

 

A few hours before his arrest Jesus told his disciples that others would know we are Jesus’ disciples by the love that we have one for another.  Love has no room for brokenness.  Love challenges us to honor God even as we honor one another in all aspects of life.

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